Posts in spiritual formation
Murdered Anyone Today?

"Thou shalt not murder" is one of the Ten Commandments, and none of us likely have issue with obeying it. We say, "It's a command. One of the big ten. Of course I'll obey it."

When's the last time you took a Sabbath? Better put, is your commitment to honour the Sabbath as strong as your commitment to not murder? If not, how come? They are both big ten commands.

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How Thin Is Your Silence?

What's your opinion on silence? Do you like it? Dislike it? Yearn for it? Avoid it?

If you were to ask me this question last month, I would have quickly said, "I love it and want more of it in my life." That response would make sense. I live in an urban centre, have a teenager in the house, and am often in meetings with people. I don't have a lot of silence in my life, so of course I'd want more of it.

So yes, it makes sense. Unfortunately, if I'm being honest with myself, it's not true.

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Working hard for your money? Good!

It was God's intention from the beginning of time to partner and co-create with his Creation. We read in Genesis 1 that humanity was given the task of stewarding the earth, and God gave them "every seed-bearing plant and all the fruit trees" for food. God provided the food, but humanity would need to gather the food for themselves. An angel wasn't going to drop off a food-basket at Adam and Eve's doorstep every morning.

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Stop awfulizing

Do you tend to assume the best or the worst about people and situations? If you receive a text that is open to interpretation, depending on the tone, do you lean more toward a negative interpretation? If something happens, do you predict the most catastrophic outcome of the circumstance? Do you keep worrying terrible things will happen to loved ones? Psychologists have a term for this: awfulizing.

So how do we stop doing it?

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Where is God when you pray?

If you were ask followers of Jesus this question today, many would say, "In heaven." Ask the natural follow-up question of where heaven is, and you'll likely get a shrug of the shoulders or a finger pointing to the sky. This means, of course, when these same followers of Jesus begin to pray, they are directing their prayers to God who is "up there... somewhere" or "out there... somewhere."

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The Importance of Uncertainty Tolerance

Spiritual maturity is measured in part by a high level of uncertainty tolerance. I know we sometimes think that the more mature follower of Jesus is the one who has the unshakeable certainty about God. Unshakeable faith in God (because we know his loving character) is good. Unshakeable certainty about God (because we have him all figured out) is not.

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Classical or jazz praying?

When the disciples asked Jesus to teach them to pray, he didn't reply, "Just pray as you feel led." He said, "Pray like this..." and then gave them the Lord's Prayer (Matthew 6). He gave them words and a format.

There are times I am tongue-tied in prayer, when I cannot articulate the thought in my mind or the groaning in my heart. When I feel like this, sometimes I pray in tongues, and sometimes I read the prayers of the saints.

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Have you skipped over your village?

The rise of Facebook and other social media means many of us are overloaded with acquaintances. We follow along and try to stay in touch with hundreds or thousands of people, and are affected by the events of their lives. Because we are overloaded and relationally drained, we may have many, many shallow friendships with acquaintances, but very few deep, meaningful relationships.

The result is crisis.

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Warning: Deconstruction Ahead (Part 3)

I have never met a mature and gracious follower of Jesus that at some point in their journey did not deconstruct at least a little bit in some way. It may have been a major deconstruction (their entire faith construct) or a minor one (changing the way they think about one certain issue or belief), but they came to the point of realizing that they did not know all the right answers and we’re open to unlearning and changing.

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